It’s hard nowadays to find the love of a good woman, while it’s pretty easy to find the love of any man as long as you don’t require charm or sophistication. The interaction between men and women is bizarre in college as first impressions mean everything and physical appearance reigns supreme over personality. Not many people will admit their tendencies or even see what they’re doing as wrong, but society closes its eyes to many things.

Our generation has become shallow. Not only do we view each other like life is one colossal auction, but we also pass judgment on personal habits. Cigarette smokers experience this often. Many people will not go near smokers while they indulge in their vice, and many people will not consider a smoker as someone they’re interested in solely because of their addiction. Whether the judgment has been made that they’ll never quit or don’t have the desire to do so, relationships are never given the chance to exist and prosper — but if you become important to them, they will quit sooner or later.

Beauty is stressed as being a more desirable characteristic than personality. Many people looking for a partner don’t consider that in a relationship you could become the motivation for them to change. In the long run, not only does this change affect them, but it also works toward making their partner happy as well.

The first girl I ever fell in love with gave me the motivation to get back into shape and impress her with my dedication. I worked out so much that my sister one day cornered me and asked if I was taking steroids. After explaining to her that I wasn’t on the “juice,” I laughed and took it as the best compliment my sister has ever given me.

The gym is packed everyday with men and women trying to get or even remain in good shape. The gym can also be one of many local places to check out the opposite sex and possibly impress a few of them. It has become a requirement to workout and be slim and trim in order to find someone. But, changing who you are to attract someone isn’t as special as being with someone who takes you for who you are.

Find someone with a personality that you can’t be without one that causes laughter, smiling, blushing and comfort. Physical traits can always be improved, though personalities are one in an million.

Love isn’t based upon physical attraction, but rather upon an emotional level that couples reach together. Give the opposite sex a chance; if you find someone who makes you feel special, then latch on and don’t let go for anyone. Otherwise, you could risk missing out on something possibly amazing because of a few minor flaws like height, weight or clear skin.

Are you going to take a chance with your special person? Let us know, e-mail your thoughts to viewpoint@technicianonline.com.